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Archive: January 2017

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Hoodie Dress: Amazon, c/o | Purse: Kate Spade | Boots: A'GACI | Hurraches: Nike

Don't you just love those pieces you can wear in so many different outfit combinations? I mean, versatility is everything! As soon as I saw this dress, I knew I wanted to wear it with my tall OTK boots. It takes comfy, cute to a whole other level. I actually found the second option on accident. I was getting ready to change into something more comfortable and I just put my jeans on, while I still had the hoodie dress on. I looked in the mirror and thought to myself "this look works and I am SO comfortable!". I threw on my hurraches and I was ready to head back out for the evening.

Today is the second most important day of the year (after my birthday and right before Christmas, hehe). Today is the day my amazing husband/favorite person was born. I seriously do not know where I would be today if I had not met this amazingly handsome man almost 12 years ago, and if he had not asked me to be his girlfriend 5 years later. He has changed my life for the better. He motivates me constantly, he challenges me and pushes me far beyond I thought I could ever go, and he spoils me like crazy.
Here's a few more reasons why he's so amazing to me:

Okay so excuse me as I drool while I write this post, but it is just making me TOO hungry!

Let's talk about this cardigan for a minute! It is SO SOFT and SO COMFORTABLE! I don't know if y'all are noticing a trend with me or not, but I have a thing for comfortable clothing and if I can find some that is cute AND comfortable.. I think I've hit the jackpot! I've worn this cardigan many times this fall/winter season, but I think this outfit is my favorite.
Sweater Dress: Loxley Boutique | Choker and Boots: A'GACI | Clutch: Kate Spade

There is just something so sexy to me about "off the shoulder" clothing. If you guys have been reading my blog since the summer (thank you!) then you'll know that I am OBSESSED with all things "cold shoulder", so imagine how excited I was when Loxley Boutique had this winter dream dress! Loxley is seriously one of my favorite places to shop. If you guys haven't been yet, PLEASE GO. Vivian and the other girls there will take great care of you and if you mention TJE, you'll get a discount! Y'all this dress is so comfortable. I can literally wear it lounging around the house, but I won't because I also think it is sexy and perfect for a night out to dinner or a show. I actually wore this dress in Las Vegas to the Michael Jackson ONE show and then to dinner afterwards at "Top of the World" restaurant. Read all about those experiences in Vegas here

I told you guys earlier this week I am becoming crazy over OTK boots. These are so comfortable I can almost wear them with any outfit. Definitely get you some from A'GACI before they sell out! Speaking of A'GACI, y'all.. they got me in my first choker. I honestly don't know how to feel about it. I do like how it looks with this dress combo, but I felt like I was dying most of the time due to claustrophobia. This one is okay I guess because it is really thin since it is lace, but don't be surprised if you don't see a whole lot more chokers featured here! :)

Well it's Friday guys! What do you have planned for the weekend? My cousin and her fiance is having their engagement party tomorrow and I am hoping to FINALLY get to making my vision board for the year this weekend (fingers crossed). I also need to do a lot of cleaning, so we will see what happens. Enjoy your weekend lovelies!

Thank you for reading. XO

So you've met the man or woman of your dreams and you can't imagine life without them in it. You spend all of your free time together and feel like everything is almost perfect. Then suddenly one day, you get into that dream school you've been wanting to go to since you were 10, or one of you gets that once in a lifetime dream job that could change your life. Sounds like the perfect situation right? Right, but there's one problem...

You have to have to move out of state and leave your significant other behind.

So how is this going to work now? How can you possibly be in two different states and keep your chemistry and relationship as strong as it always has been? It seems as if the stars are aligning in different areas of space, and we just might not be meant to be together. Well, I'm here to tell you that a long distance relationship CAN work if you both are willing to put in the time and hard work to keep the sparks alive.

Did you guys know that my husband and I were in a long distance relationship for four years before we finally lived together in the same state? For the entire first two years of our relationship, we were in different cities and then two years later, he moved to New York and I was still in college in Knoxville, TN. It was tough, but since this is something I have been through, I thought I would share my top eight tips for surviving a long distance relationship with you. I hope you can take something, if even just one thing, from my experience and it helps you. :)

Video Chat/Face Time Regularly
We are so lucky to live in a time with so much access to social media and electronic devices! It makes it so easy to stay connected with loved ones, even being far away. Make it your priority to set time aside to video chat with your significant other. Use them time to be away from anyone else and just completely focus on you two. It will create more security in the relationship. Sometimes, my husband and I would eat together on face time since we couldn't eat together in person. It wasn't the same, but the next best thing!

Agree on Expectations
There is hardly anything worse than two people trying to be in a relationship, but have two different ideas on what that relationship entails. Are you exclusively dating? Friends with benefits? Only exclusive when you're together? I have heard it ALL when it comes to relationship situations. Be sure to communicate upfront what your expectations are because you don't want to have someone thinking one thing about your relationship and you're on a whole other page. Trust me, it will save you many arguments down the road, or even more so save you from heartbreaks.

Be Creative
Distance makes the heart grow fonder, but you have to be creative in your approach to keep the sparks alive when you do see each other. Send love letters, make sure to tell each other "good morning" and "good night' every day/night, try new things together when you get that special time. I remember my husband used to always plan really fun things for us to do together when I visited him in New York and I tried to do the same for him when he visited me. Create a space of anticipation so that each time you're apart, it's not "Ugh, I'm so tired of being apart", but it turns into "I can't wait until we get together again".

Do Similar Things
Find a book, movie, or TV show that you are both into and read/watch it together! You may be apart, but taking part in the same activities will make you feel closer together. During our time of being long distance, I would have to say this was when I starting my husband watching like "Dance Moms" and "Real Housewives of Atlanta" haha. Being able to sit on the phone or face time with him while watching these shows ALMOST made me feel like I was sitting on the couch with him watching. Not only that, but it created conversation opportunities for us as well.

Avoid "sticky" Situations
Okay guys and gals, if you think know your significant other will have a problem with you being out until 2am without checking in with them, then there are two ways to handle it: a) don't do it or b) tell your partner beforehand and don't let them find out about it. Reassure them and don't be careless because an insecure partner is not ideal for long distance relationships. You can do your part to keep that from happening. Y'all know what to do, I'm not even going to go deeper into this one... because y'all know! NEXT.

Fight Fair
This is a big one guys. Arguments and disagreements always seem SO MUCH MORE dramatic when you're in a long distance relationship. My husband and I used to argue about some of the craziest things all just because we missed each other. We look back on some of the arguments now and laugh because we can't believe we were so upset back then. It sucks to be in a fight with your significant other when you're away because you never feel that "resolve" like you would if you could hug and kiss and make up afterwards. However, do not run away from problems because you're afraid to rock the boat in your relationship. Holding in anger and frustrations can only build up over time and create an unhealthy dynamic in your already hard situation.

Know Each Others Schedule
This helps A LOT. If you know each others schedule, then you will know how to plan the time you communicate. This took awhile for my husband and I because with him, he was either at work or at one of his shows and with me, I was either in class or in a meeting for one of my organizations in college. It was frustrating at first because every time he would call me, I'd be busy and vice versa. Once we figured out our schedules and where the free gaps were, it made communication so much easier. Also, be willing to compromise. If you have wiggle room in your schedule to change some stuff around in order to be able to spend that time talking to your partner, do it. It shows you're willing to make it work by any means necessary.

Communication and Trust
Both of these are major key. You have to fully trust your partner in a long distance relationship or it will not work. That goes both ways too, you have to be able to BE trusted or it will not work. How can you build trust? Open and honest communication. Don't be afraid to tell your significant other about the girl that tried to "holla" at you while you were out with your friends. Tell your man about the guy who slid in your DM's. The last thing you want to happen is for your significant other to find out these things and it becomes a huge deal when it truly was nothing, but because they didn't hear it from you, it makes them suspicious.

There are so many other things that go into ensuring a long distance relationship lasts and is healthy, but these are some basics that can get you on the right track. The main thing I wanted you to take from this is that you can do it! It truly can be done with both in the relationship willing. Don't let the opinions of negative people make you feel like your relationship doesn't stand a chance. There WILL be naysayers who tell you that you're crazy for even doing it, but as long as you're following your heart and what you want to do, you will be alright.

Thank you so much for reading! xo
Sweater: Charming Charlie | Boots: Steve Madden | Clutch: Viva La Jewels Boutique

I am so in love with this outfit! It's super comfortable and these neutral colors have me swooning! I've had this sweater for a few years now and I love it more every time I wear it. Charming Charlie always has super cute tops and sweaters. I was happy to know that this sweater paired so perfectly with my boots! 

I have to say that it took me awhile to warm up to the "over the knee" boot trend, but now that I am here, I am so in love with how they look with so many different outfits. You can wear them with jeans, dresses, shorts, I mean there really isn't a combination you can't find a way to fit them into. Not to mention, in the winter time, they make your legs so much warmer! I got these at Steve Madden, but I've seen similar ones in this same color at other places. I think I want some wine and/or green ones!

I hope you all had a great weekend. I spent a lot of time with my cousin this past weekend who will be getting married in October. We went bridesmaid dress shopping and to the Pink Bridal Show. She was able to check a couple things off of her to-do list this weekend, so I would say it was a success!

Thank you all for reading! xo
Hey lovelies!

I can't believe it has already been like two weeks since we took our trip to Las Vegas for New Year's. I had been to Vegas twice before this trip; once when I was twelve and another time when I turned 21. However, I would have to say this was the first time I got the full Vegas experience and I had the time of my life.

As most of you know, Vegas is a tourist city and honestly, there is literally a million things to do every where you go. Every hotel has at least 6 restaurants in it, most of them have full blown malls right inside the hotel, you can see shows at almost all of them, and some even have rides and different activities you can do. It's pretty insane, but I loved it. My husband and I went there with three other couples and I think it's safe to say we all had an amazing time.

I wanted to give you guys some tips and recommendations from our trip of some things you should definitely do, and places you should definitely check out. Also, I want to say that planning ahead is key. If you book pretty much everything you'd like to do before you go, then you'll have more spending money while you're there and you don't have to worry about the things you want to do being sold out on the days you want to go. Pre-planning helped to make this trip amazing.
..... and I'm okay with that!

Yep. You read 100% correct. In our marriage, my husband has money hidden somewhere and I have no idea how much it is, and I'm not the least bit concerned about it.

I know I'm for sure raising some eyebrows with this one and that is fine with me. I wanted to. Because I need those people who think "she crazy as hell to let this happen" to read this and understand why I'm okay with it. I need those people who are going to talk crap about me and assume all negative things about my marriage to come to the front of the congregation right now.
This post is for you.

So let's take a second to discuss some things about my husband and I's relationship. I'm not going to go too deep into it because it would be straying away from the main point, but I do think it is important to point out a couple key things that are key in our relationship.

His favorite color is red, mine is yellow.
I'm the calm one, he tends to have a hot head.
He's pessimistic, I'm optimistic.
I'm can be a daydreamer, he's more of a go getter.
He's more chill, whereas I'm usually goofy.
I'm horrible with money/spending, whereas he HATES spending money.

So there you have it. You've just learned a few fun facts about my husband and I! Key things that make us totally different, but somehow, brings us close together at the end of the day. Our differences compliment our relationship in such a beautiful way. However, let's focus in on that last one for a second.

"I'm horrible with money/spending, whereas he HATES spending money."

You see, I can have sort of a shopping problem sometimes. I have a hard time walking away from super cute shoes or that fabulous dress that just fits me in all the right places (even if I have no where to wear it right now). I have so much stuff that I'm borderline a hoarder. At least three times a year I have to go through my closets and literally MAKE MYSELF get rid of clothes, shoes, etc. just to make room for all the new stuff that hadn't seemed to make it out of the bags yet. This is not me bragging or trying to put out there everything I have either. This is me sharing and being transparent about a section of my life that most who truly know me probably already assume, but it had never been confirmed until now.


I own it and I take complete responsibility for it. With that being said, I feel blessed to have a man completely opposite of me in this regard. Marriage is all about balance, and if you have balance in the most conflicting areas of your lives, you will be alright. See, my husband KNOWS I love to shop. He knows I have a weakness when it comes to spending money on things I don't need. However, he also knows that I am not stupid. He knows that I will make sure everyone and everything around me is taken care of before I go out spending on myself. He knows I'm not a selfish person nor will I do anything to cause us financial pains down the road. This is why for the most part, he leaves me alone. He doesn't question me (much) when packages come in the mail a few times per week or when I go to the mall AGAIN when I was just there a few days ago. I've had my moments where I've gotten a little too carried away and he's had to be like "okay baby, you need to stop the shopping" and I always listen because if it gets to that point, I know I'm doing a lot! It's rare though! *WINK* :)

Now, back to the hiding money part! My husband has put continues to put money away for us in a few different places for financial security. I know the money exists, but I have no idea how much it is or where it is located. He tells me that it is there, but also that I don't need to know how much it is because if I knew how much it was, I might go even crazier in my shopping excursions which on the surface, I'm like "what? No way I wouldn't do that! What kind of person do you think I am with no self control?!", but then deep down, I know that inner shopping voice might start talking to me.. telling me to buy the shoes because "We good! We have a little cushion!" So, he's right. I don't need to know. I trust my husband. He takes VERY good care of me and our household, so there's no reason for me to fret about some money I don't know about because I know whenever I need something, my man is always there to make sure I'm straight.

"build with your partner because when you're building, you're growing as one."

In my opinion, every relationship should have a person that is the most financially responsible to secure hidden funds. If you don't know the money is there, then you won't spend it and you can build with your partner because when you're building, you're growing as one. In America, money is one of the leading causes of stress in a relationship, and even worse, it causes divorce. I read in an article on myfinancialawareness.com that nearly 57% of divorced couples they surveyed cited money problems as the primary reason for the demise of their marriage. Not just money either, but like underlying issues that surround money. Things like lack of communication about money, fear of not having enough money, lack of self-worth for not having much money, and the list goes on and on.

I encourage you to start talking to your partner and find out each of your strengths and weaknesses within your every day lives and your relationship. Then, make sure at least one of you are capable of leading your household financially. Now, I do understand that every relationship is not like ours and some of you may completely disagree with me on this. Some of you may feel you can handle your own finances individually like you're still single or that you don't have enough trust in your spouse for them to handle your (your as in, you and your spouses') money like that, but guess what? That's a HUGE issue in itself love, and I suggest you guys sit down with someone to figure out what is causing this distrust because it won't get better without effort from both parties. 

 I'm curious of your thoughts on this topic, so please drop me a comment or two below! It's okay if you don't agree, like I said, every relationship is different. Just make sure that if you do not handle your finances in this manner, you're handling them in a way where you both will be okay on a rainy day. After all, marriage is when two become one.. so let's not be selfish my friends.

Thank you so much for reading! XO
My Top Beauty Products

 Hey lovelies!

I've seen a couple of my favorite bloggers share some of their beauty staples/holy grail, so I thought it might be fun for me to share mine with you guys too! I have a lot of makeup/beauty products that I use on a regular, but these eight items I cannot live without! If I was stranded on a desert island and I could bring a few items with me, I could have these and I'd be okay!

When I'm suffering from an acne breakout, I HAVE to use my Clinique 3-Step Acne Treatment. It is a more gentle approach for my skin than like Proactive or something like that, but still clears me up really good. When I have a pimple, I can literally put the Clinique clearing gel on that pimple, go to sleep, and when I wake up, it is usually gone. I'm not even kidding guys, it works THAT GOOD! When I'm not having a breakout moment, I usually will just use Shea Moisture's African Black Soap on my face. It's a gentle, yet effective cleanser.

Now to my makeup staples, I cannot live without a good highlight, mascara, and bold lipstick! If I have those things, I can pull myself together real quick and look presentable. Side note, when you wear matte lipstick, it's good to put a moisturizer like Carmex, Vaseline, or something underneath so that your lips won't be as dry. Next time you're at Walgreen's or something, pick up one of those L'Oreal mascaras! I SWEAR it is up there with the "Better than Sex" mascara and it is WAY CHEAPER!

My favorite item of all.... the MAKEUP ERASER! I am SO happy I found this at Sephora! Y'all, it takes all of my makeup off and all you need is the eraser and WATER! That's it! You wash it in the washing machine and you can use it over and over again. It is literally like my best friend. I've had two of them because I left one in New York once, but if I hadn't left it, I would still be using that one!

Do you guys use any of these products? What are your "holy grails"? I'd love to know!

Thank you so much for reading! XO

I really love shopping at A'GACI because they always have cute, trendy items at a super reasonable price. Not to mention, they have some of the CUTEST shoes! So every time they reach out to me for a collab, I'm always like HECK YES! I can always find items there that fit my body well and make me feel awesome too. Ladies, you know you need those "feel good" clothes in your closet when you're not feeling all that great on the inside, but you still want to look cute! This outfit does that for me.

This dress is SOOO comfortable y'all! It is super soft to the touch and gives breathing room where necessary, but it looks super cute on too. I will definitely be ordering it in a few more colors. It can be dressed up or down with this Moto jacket or a cardigan or a fur vest! Whatever your mood for the day. Tie in some over-the-knee boots like these and you've got a very well put together look for the winter. Don't forget your accessories ladies!

I'm still super jet-lagged from our New Year's trip to Vegas! I seriously had an amazing time and I can't wait to share details of the trip with you guys. Definitely have some recommendations for those of you planning to travel there soon.

Thank you for reading! xo
Jumpsuit: Lulu's | Fur Jacket: Forever21 | Shoes: Christian Louboutin | Lips: MAC Ruby Woo


I can't believe it is a new year. I don't know if it has actually hit me yet, which I feel could be a good thing. Nothing feels different. I felt amazing in 2016, and I feel amazing now that it is 2017. I'm just really excited about all I have planned and I can't wait to see it all manifest.

My husband and I haven't had a chance to make our vision boards yet due to us being on vacation, but we will make those before the week is over and I'll be sure to share with you guys once they are finished. We have, however, made our list of goals for the new year and I couldn't be more happy with how align we are with our goals and ambitions. We have such an amazing balance that I couldn't imagine sharing life with anyone else.

Have you guys set your goals for 2017? They could be as big or as small as you want them to be, but seeing them written down on paper will help you see your vision in a new light. Then, if you feel so inclined, just go ahead and set some time to create a vision board too. Make sure to let me know how it works out for you! :)

I know this will be a great year for us. I feel refreshed, renewed, and ready to take on any and every challenge that comes my way! I hope you all are just as excited as I am.

Thank you for reading! xo

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