Happy 29th Birthday to Me! | A Love Letter to Myself


I celebrated my 29th birthday this past Tuesday and I am excited to say that I am SO ready for this next year of life. As I prepared for this day in the weeks/months before, I was a little nervous. 29 is so close to 30 and I just didn't feel ready! However, God showed me a week or so before that I AM ready and this year will be honestly probably my best yet. We don't tend to look at birthday's this way as we get older, but technically I am at the beginning of my 30th year of life now. My birthday was a celebration of me living through 29 years and now I am at the beginning of 30. I am determined to make it count.

Seeing that we have been quarantine and social distancing since March, I honestly didn't have high expectations for this birthday, but thanks to my amazing husband, this was literally my best birthday yet! I plan to write a post in the next week or so detailing how I celebrated, but in the mean time check out my Instagram to see a few pictures from my amazing birthday celebrations.

I wrote a letter to myself this year and I wanted to share it with all of you!

Here's to a new year of growth and love!

Dear Jamaria,

Girl, can you believe that you are 29 year's old?! I know it's kind of crazy to think about, but here you are girl.. knocking right on 30's door. Guess what though? You're so ready! I'm really proud of you Jam. You spent your 28th year of life working on yourself and searching for the things that truly fulfill you. I know you're still working on it, but you have come so far. I know you will just continue to grow and grow in this new year of life. As you start this next chapter, I want to remind you of some of the changes you have made in your life thus far, and encourage you to keep learning, keep loving, and keep being YOU.

Over this last year, you have changed the way you talk to yourself, the way you view yourself, and you have changed where you invested your energy. As an Enneagram type 2, you struggle at times to do what's best for you if you think that it'll have a negative effect on others. You have started to learn how to have a healthy balance and I need you to keep that up! You can't pour from any empty cup. You have also vowed NOT to change who you are to satisfy other people. No more people pleasing Jam! You have struggled with this for the majority of your life and it's time to let that go. If people truly love you, they will love you for who you are. You love the way you feel when you're comfortably and confidently YOU.. so don't stop. Don't go back to old habits. Old habits die hard.

Here's a big one; if you want to be a good person to people, BE THAT GOOD PERSON TO THEM.. Regardless of how you think they will treat you in return. Treating people in the way they treat you doesn't make you feel better and it makes you act out of character. Stay true to you, but don't be naive. Good energy goes where good energy flows. Don't disrupt your aura because other's aren't on the same wave.

Continue to be kind, loving, loyal, and a ride or die friend and loved one. Remember that you won't be everyone's cup of tea and that is okay! You can say no sometimes, too! Don't feel like you always have to tell people yes and know that saying no doesn't make you a bad person, but just a person who is choosing to take control of their own life.

The main lesson I want you to take into this next year of life with you is this: LIFE IS SHORT. Stop letting fear keep you from walking in your purpose and chasing your dreams. It is not fair to you and tomorrow isn't promised. Take the risk and do whatever it is that your heart desires. You have so much untapped potential. It's time to let it out! Stop waiting until you're "ready".. because guess what Jam?

You're ready.

As you enter into this new decade of your life, ENJOY THE RIDE. Keep smiling, keep laughing, keep living, keep loving. It's going to be a great year! :-)


XO, Jam


  1. Aw I love this so much! It's so important to be kind to ourselves <3 Hope you had an amazing birthday!


  2. Don't be afraid to celebrate your life -- you only get the one. And this is coming from a 34-year-old. Happy birthday, beautiful!

  3. Happy Birthday!! Enjoy every minute! And I totally agree with Cheryl (Oh To Be A Muse). Embrace every minute of your life! Reaching a birthday is one of the best gifts! Hope you enjoy your day and have fun celebrating!


  4. Happy birthday girlfriend! Everyone dreads turning 30 but my 30s have been pretty great!


  5. This is such a beautiful idea, I love it. Also - happy belated birthday!!!!

  6. Belated Happy Birthday! We all have one life - we should make the most of it, no matter what!

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  7. Happy birthday gal!! You are so fabulous and hope you had the best day!

  8. Happy birthday sweet girl! Hope it's the best year yet!

  9. happy birthday, beautiful!! love the perspective you're giving your birthday!

    cute & little

  10. Happy Birthday!!! That pink sequin dress, looks so good on you and I hope you had the best day! Love the idea of an annual letter to you, from you...such a good way to show up for yourself. xoxo, Sarah

  11. Happy Birthday!! Love your birthday dress. Looks like it turned out a success!

  12. love the content of this blog and the positive intent you have. Thanks!


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