4.12.2017

Love and Marriage | Things Happy Couples Don't Do


Happy Hump Day lovelies!

I hope you all have been having a great week thus far. I'm a little exhausted from this work trip to Dallas, but I will be okay! Thank you all so much for all of the sweet anniversary wishes yesterday. I enjoyed my trip down memory lane sharing photos with you guys on Instagram and Snapchat.

Anyway, it's time for another #LoveandMarriage post from yours truly and today, I want to talk about the habits of happy couples. Well, let me rephrase that; I want to talk about the things happy couples DON'T do.. which probably explains part of the reason they are so happy. I don't have much of an intro for this, so let's just jump right on into it!
Top Five Things Happy Couples DON'T Do

1. We don't gossip about details of our relationship with friends/family.
This is MAJOR KEY guys. Your business in your relationship is no one else's business. If you and your significant other have an argument, work it out with each other. Don't call your Mom or your best friend spilling all of the juicy details because what happens is YOU will forgive them, but your friend/family member may hold a grudge and it can cause all types of unnecessary confusion. It's okay to have girl talk every now and then, but the big stuff you're going through, leave it between the two of you unless it's so big you seek counseling. With that being said, it still doesn't involve friends and family!

2. We don't stop dating each other.
My husband and I are both very busy people. Sometimes during the week, we only see each other long enough to ask about each other's day, watch one of our DVR'd shows (we always have SO MANY), and then we are both climbing into bed to prepare for the next day. Our day to day can be so fast paced that it is important to stop at least once a week and make sure we have a date night. Our date night can be as simple as ordering in and talking for hours or we may dress up and go out to nice restaurant and a movie. Whatever you decide, just make sure not to stop dating ever because you always need to be reminded of why you fell in love in the first place. Don't lose the fun aspect of your relationship because you now have a demanding career, children, and a dog. Your marriage should still come first.

3. We don't ignore our finances.
 This is another big one guys. You CANNOT ignore your finances. When the relationship is serious, both parties in the relationship need to be open and honest about their spending habits, saving habits, and their debt. Don't ignore that school debt you have and then later be like "Oh yeah babe, I forgot to tell you.. I have 100K in school loan debt". Seriously.. just don't do that. Be open and honest. My husband and I openly discuss our finances and we know what our goals are financially. You can read about why my husband hides money from me here! It works for us, find what works for you!

4. We don't try to "Keep up with the Jones'".
 Every relationship and everyone's circumstances are different. Trying to keep up with your friends or other couples your same age will drain on your relationship and your happiness. Do not look at the next couple and try to compare your story to theirs. Just because their Facebook and Instagram makes them look so perfect, doesn't mean they actually are. No one knows what goes on behind closed doors in someone else's home, and even if things are great with them.. so what? Their story isn't your story and it is so unhealthy to always compare. You won't do nothing but upset your significant other because they will feel like they aren't good enough.

5. We don't lose our individuality.
 Marriage does not equal LOCK DOWN. The hobbies and interests you had before you got married or into your serious relationship should not have to change (unless you did something that is a deal breaker for your significant other and that should be discussed before you get serious/married). My husband and I still have individual friends that we hang out with. Sure, we have made some really great married friends that we hang out with as well, but I still have single friends and so does he. A lot of times, I think this last one is hardest for the friends to understand than the people in the relationship, but it's so true. I enjoy hanging out with all of my friends that I had before marriage and the ones I made after. Keep your individuality and don't lose your identity to your relationship.

So there you have it loves, those are my top five things happy couples don't do. What about you? What is something you and your significant other do that contributes to the overall happiness you have on a daily basis? I'd love to hear about it! Drop a comment below!

Thanks so much for reading! xo

2 comments:

  1. We travel A LOT! He has two kids and it's really good to get away and have ADULT time! We also include the kids in a few of those vacations! I recommend that all couples travel together, alone, with friends, and with your kids/family

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    1. Yesss! Absolutely! Traveling together is a major key! :)

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