Love and Marriage | Spice It Up!

You been with your man for some years now and you're starting to get lazy sis. You used to pull out the sexy lingerie on a regular, wear those high heels he loves and that dress that he wants you to wear every time you go out. Bro, you getting lazy too. You not buying flowers on a regular like you used to and you'd much rather have 'Netflix and Chill' than go out on most days. It's cool. We all have our moments, but we have to realize the moment is happening, catch ourselves, and SNAP OUT OF IT! SPICE IT UP!
When a relationship is in it's beginning stages, you naturally go the extra mile in everything you do because you're still in the 'honeymoon' stage. The excitement from a new relationship puts you on cloud nine and makes you feel like you have a new walk and glow (y'all know what I'm talking about). Well, why do we have to let that go? We don't y'all, we don't! We have to keep our relationships fresh and exciting.

My girlfriends and I regularly have discussions about relationships and how we tend to spice things up in our own ways. We talk about the things we know we are lacking and the things we are amazing at and somehow, we rub off on each other in amazing ways (shout out to my girls!). I'm here to let you know that if you have got into the repetitive, boring, stage of your relationship, all is not lost. You can get that spark back and here's a few different ways to do it.

1. Try Something New...Together
Now, y'all can take this wherever you want because it can apply in many different aspects of your relationship. Trying something new could be as adventurous as sky diving together or as sensual as trying something new in the bedroom. Whatever you decide, do it together and it'll spark up a lot of different things like new meaningful conversation and memories you can look back on.

2. Find a Group of Friends in A Relationship/Marriage To Do Things With
This is important, in my opinion. I'm not saying stop hanging out with single friends, but make time to hang with friends who are in serious relationships or married like you to give you an opportunity to see things in different perspectives and to have fun! I love hanging out with married people simply because we as women can relate on a lot of different things and I'm still able to have my husband there too. Having people around who share your same values is healthy in a marriage.

3. Keep the Element of Surprise
I looovvveee surprises. LOVE THEM! My husband wasn't really into it in the beginning of our relationship, but now that I have done it quite often, I think he expects it in a way and he loves them too. He always finds a way to surprise me as well, whether I come home from work to beautiful roses or he has picked up my favorite meal from my favorite restaurant or he bought me a nice gift I wasn't expecting. There's so many different ways to surprise your significant other; be creative! 

4. Get Involved in Each Other's Lives
What I mean by this is that you need to know what your significant other is up to and support it! Do you know what your spouse's hobbies are? What he/she likes to do when they aren't with you? My husband is my #1 supporter with my blog and I am his #1 fan with his music. I slacked a little in going to his shows and he let me know that it bothered him, so I've been trying to do better about it. It's important to be involved and know what is going on. Communication is key!

5. Always Greet Each Other With Love
When I come home from work and my husband is already there, I find him, give him a huge hug and kiss and ask him about his day. I do this before I go about doing other things because I always want him to feel like he's important and I missed him throughout my day. You'll be surprised at how much a simple greeting can set the tone of your mood for the rest of the day or evening.

6. Don't Lose Intimacy
IMPORTANT ONE! This is something you need in order to keep the spark in your relationship. Never get to busy to the point where you don't get intimate with your spouse. If you can make time to watch your favorite TV shows, you can make time to have this intimacy with your spouse. Being intimate is a good form of exercise too, and in the words of Elle Wood's from 'Legally Blonde', "Exercise gives you endorphins. Endorphins make you happy. Happy people just don't shoot their husbands." :)


So now that you have a few different ways to SPICE IT UP, get on out there and do it lovelies! You can thank me later! xo

How do you and your spouse spice things up in your marriage? Let me know in the comments.

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