Celebrate Your GALentine's!

February is a favorite month of mine.

Why? Because for one, it is Black History Month. A time when the world will acknowledge the greatness that is black people for 28/29 days. For many of us, however, #BlackGirlMagic and #MelaninMagic are celebrated all year long, but it is nice to see the rest of the world acknowledge us for a little while too. The other reason I love February is because for me, the month represents love. Everywhere you go, there's flowers, sweet chocolate, balloons, people going out of their way to show love to one another. It's really refreshing, especially in this day and time. Black History Month and Valentine's Day are so similar to me because just like the celebration of blackness, I celebrate love all year round too. Who says we have to have a set time to show black people love or to just show the ones you love just how much you love them, period? I guess in the mix of our busy every day lives, it's easy to forget some of the most important things, so we count on Black History Month/Valentine's Day to remind us. Nevertheless, this month is very special and Valentine's Day has a lot to do with that.

My husband and I have always acknowledged Valentine's Day; sometimes we celebrate in a big way, sometimes we don't. For me, I feel loved by my sweet husband every single day, but it's nice to have an excuse to shower each other with extra love, right? While all of this lovey dovey stuff may be true, we can't forget about our GALentine's! I've always loved having girlfriends, but as I have gotten older, my solid girls have become even more important to me.

A couple week's ago, I decided to have a last minute small girl's night in (one of my favorite things to do) with some of my closest girlfriends. It was important for me because 2018 was rough. I had a hard time dealing with the reality of losing friends, re-categorizing friends, and all the above. Some I realized we weren't on the same page anymore at all and had to completely let go. Some I realized I was pouring into the friendship 10x more than them so I had to pull back. Some, I'm still not really sure what happened.. but things have just been different for us and we honestly probably need to talk through it. There's so much more I can say about that and my journey through 2018, but I will save it for another post. Anyway, I can honestly say that through all of that, these five remained solid. There's a couple more solid gals in my life, but for the purposes of this particular night, I needed/wanted these five beautiful women to come together because I wanted them to know how much I need, celebrate, and love them. I LOVE being married, but some people associate marriage with not being able to have girlfriends anymore and honey let me tell you, I believe you need your girls even more once you're in a marriage!

So this night to me was simple. I ordered pizza and wings, we had Butternut Wine and junk food, we laughed, talked, and played games, and simply just enjoyed being together! I LIVE for nights like that. If I could have a girl's night every month, I promise I would. There's nothing better than being able to connect with people who are so different, yet so similar. People who will laugh with you, cry with you, tell you when you're wrong, and celebrate your wins. It's super important to let your gals know just how much you love and appreciate them.

Chanquilla, Avery, Jasmine, Britne, and Leah.. I love you all so very much and I thank you for loving me for me. Here's a couple things life has taught me about friendships:
I have learned that as adults, friendships are hard work and we don't always know what adult friendships are supposed to look or feel like.
I have learned that I won't be everyone's first, second, or third choice friend (hard one to swallow).
I have learned that just because someone I desired to be friends with doesn't vibe with a certain characteristic of mine, I don't have to change it.
I have learned it's okay to have friends for different needs in your life and categorize them accordingly.

Celebrate your Galentine's this month lovelies, and if you can't because of a busy schedule, that's okay. You can celebrate them anytime 365 days a year and you don't need the "month of love" to do it! :)

Thank you so much for reading! xo


  1. I love the idea of a Galentines Day! My husband and I don't do much for Valentines Day, he usually brings me macarons :) The idea of hosting a night for your girls instead sounds so fun!

    xx Mollie

  2. How fun are y'all!! There's nothing better than a little gal pal time!

    xo, Hillary | hillheady.com

  3. Sounds like your February is off to a great start! And I agree and being married doesn't mean you can't have girlfriends. Friendships are so important!


  4. I haven't been one to celebrate Valentine's Day in the past, but this year I've been determined to host a Galentine's Day get together. It looks like you all had so much fun and love that you said we should be celebrating our gals all year long :)

  5. It doesn't get any better than a girls night in! I also can't believe that Valentine's Day is next week - it came up so fast!!


  6. What is better than celebrating love and friendship! Happy February!
    Chic on the Cheap

  7. This Galentine's sounds so fun! I love hanging out with my friends.

  8. Anonymous2/07/2019

    My besties and I are having a Galentine's night next Wednesday and I can't wait!!

    How 2 Wear It [] http://how2wearit.com

  9. "some people associate marriage with not being able to have girlfriends anymore and honey let me tell you, I believe you need your girls even more once you're in a marriage!" THIS THIS THIS. I've seriously felt so alone in the three months I've been married. It's super important to have friends during this time!

  10. Looks like so much! I need to do this with my friends

  11. Celebrating Galentines is so much fun! And it sure looks like in your photos :)

  12. Awww...aw love celebrating Galentines Day! Sounds like a fun night with girls! We totally agree with you, the older we get the more we realize having a core group of girlfriends we can call family is important

  13. So true that it's not always easy figuring out adult friendships but the solid ones become increasingly more important over time! I've definitely noticed that myself over the past year or two and love having girls' nights with my best friends. Pizza + wine...you can't go wrong! Happy Black History Month girl!

    Xo, Kacie | theprettylittlehustler.com

  14. I really haven'r heard much of Galentine's day but a great idea. Me and hubby never celebrate V-day as it seems to commercial but to each their own and we fo our own thing on other days.

  15. Galentine’s Day made my life so much better. Takes the sadness from Valentine’s Day.


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