Happy February 1st | Do You Know Your Love Language?

 Hey everyone! Happy 1st of February! :)

February 1st marks the 1st day of the "love month" as some people like to call it and what better way to kick off love month than to talk about love?! I can talk about love no matter what time of year, but it just only seems right to talk about it now. I remember one of Marcus and I's first Valentine's Day's together. We were both still in college and we didn't have a whole lot of money, but my man was still determined to make it a great day for me. I made him this homemade calendar that highlighted all of our special times we had together during our first year in our relationship and I was SO proud of it. To this day, I don't really think he liked it too much. Well, I wouldn't say he didn't like it, but it wasn't what he wanted from me. See, I didn't know his love language at the time and I was just acting off of what I always liked myself. Y'all, I am so grateful for the book called "The Five Love Languages" because it truly helped me to learn the way my husband wants to be loved.

Before getting engaged, I heard bits and pieces about the book, but never really gave it any real thought. It wasn't until my husband and I were in our pre martial counseling class and our coaches there started talking about the importance of knowing your love language, that was when I thought "okay, I better get this book!". You guys, it changed my life. It allowed me to really figure out what my true love language, or how I want to receive and show love, truly is, as well as figure out what his love language was too. It took my husband until recently to take the quiz to figure out his love language, but after reading the book, I already knew what his love language(s) were without his quiz. I just know my husband, but it was nice to have it confirmed.

Here are the five love languages as outlined in the book:
  • Receiving Gifts
  • Quality Time
  • Words of Affirmation
  • Acts of Service
  • Physical Touch
 After taking the quiz on this website, you will see that you may have a little of all five in you, but you will also see that one or two outweigh the others. When I took the quiz, I found out that my number one love language is quality time, immediately followed by and almost tied with acts of service. This honestly did not catch me too much by surprise because I know that I enjoy spending quality time with my husband, and when he does different things like clean the kitchen, take out the trash, have dinner waiting for me when I get home from work, those types of things really make me feel loved.

As for my husband when he took the quiz, his number one love language is physical touch, followed by acts of service; both things I already knew (Go Jam!). He feels most loved when I give him a back massage or kiss him or greet him with a huge hug when I see him. We both really love acts of service and I think we do a great job surprising each other (for those of you who follow my Snapchat, I'm sure you saw I cleaned his man cave/closet last week.. he was so happy!). Knowing these things about each other really helps our relationship to stay fresh and strong. There is nothing wrong with learning how to love your spouse/significant other.

So I encourage you all, if you have not read this book, PLEASE go get a copy. Whether you are single, dating, in a serious relationship, engaged, or indifferent, it doesn't matter. I believe that everyone needs to know their own personal love language because sometimes we just don't know. Sometimes you may have to tell your significant other just exactly how you want to be loved, and believe me, there is nothing wrong with that!

Thank you for reading! :-)

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